Teach Yourself And Your Child About Bullying

“A person is bullied when he or she is exposed, repeatedly and over time, to negative actions on the part of one or more other persons, and he or she has difficulty defending himself or herself.” ~ Dan Olweus, Author: Bullying at School: What We Know and What We Can Do

At Karate World, we take the issue of bullying very seriously. It is detrimental to the well being of students and others all over the country and the World. We ask that parents, and students alike, spend some time learning about bullying. Discuss it, and talk about the warning signs.

Bullying is aggressive behavior that involves unwanted, negative actions and becomes a pattern of behavior repeated over time. It is an unhealthy imbalance of strength or power.

There are several kinds of bullying that you need to be aware of. Verbal bullying uses rumor, taunts, and derogatory comments meant to hurt the feelings of the victim. There is physical bullying that includes pushing, hitting, spitting, or throwing objects. Bullying includes social exclusion, false rumors, threats, and even theft of items from the victim. It can also occur via text messages and social media as Cyber bullying.

Studies completed about bullying point to three main reasons why someone may become a bully. Those who bully find satisfaction in causing hurt, injury, and suffering to another person or living creature. They may crave attention or dominance. This is often a type of Sociopathic  behavior and those who bully seek its psychological rewards.

Just one bully can affect not just those that they bully, but also individuals who observe bullying. They affect the overall social climate of the school, public area, home, and community. Everyone
deserves to feel safe, especially at school; however, when bullying is experienced, the victim can have lasting problems with low self-esteem, depression, and increased health issues.

Anyone who intentionally bullies another person needs to be made accountable for their actions. Bullies will tend to cause frequent fights, steal, vandalize, do poorly at school, and may even carry a weapon.

Obvious behavior problems are not always readily evident in all bullies. Many bullies do have social skills and a knack for lying. They may become friendly or admired by their teachers and other adults. They often put on a “show” of acting favorably. This can be true of boys who bully and even more common among girls who bully. It is often difficult for adults to discover – or even imagine – that these students are engaging in bullying behavior because of this.

Those who observe bullying may also feel threatened, unsafe, guilty, powerless, or fearful. Sometimes they may feel they have to join in to be part of the “in” crowd. If the bullying continues and no action is taken to stop it, the entire school, place of business, or neighborhood can be affected. The school or other area will be send as an environment of fear and disrespect.

Statistics have shown that at least 23% of students in grades 4-6 had been bullied “several times” or more. Over 20% of students have bullied others as per a 1998 study of 6,500 students in rural South Carolina.

Reports from a 2001 study of 15,000 U.S. students have also shown that 17% of students in grades 6-10 reported having been bullied “sometimes” or more often than that. 8% were bullied at least once a week and 19% said they had been a bully to others “sometimes” or “often”.

If you know of – or suspect – that any child is being bullied, you should contact your child’s teacher(s) right away. Please keep in mind that your primary goal will be to get the cooperation from the school to stop the bullying. If you learn that your own child is being victimized, it can evoke strong feelings, but you’ll get much more cooperation from the school personnel if you can remain calm, state the facts, and allow for an investigation. It should be everyone’s priority to put an end to bullying!

Karate World’s goal is to prepare each student to defend themselves, as well as to be disciplined, calm, and to lead by example. Any form of bullying will not be tolerated.